Must. Vent.
Jul. 11th, 2007 08:48 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lls_mutantI know I need to answer comments. I know I need to write. I know I need to go downstairs and see my husband. But I must vent for a moment.
Toby has started tantrums. At home, big whoop. I ignore them, don't give in, yada yada yada. In public, harder. Why harder, you ask?
Because he shouts "in the car! in the car!" He wants to ride in the car and go home.
What does a polite person generally do with a tantruming child? Get them out of the situation and home.
Yeah. You see?
He's done it before in the grocery store. Now, I do not care at all if what I do is rude. I know what he wants, and he is throwing these tantrums (rarely, but he does it) deliberately, because he wants to go ride in the car and go home and play. He is not wet, or sick, or tired at these points. This is only emphasized when he keeps saying "trains!" over and over. So, in the grocery store, I finish what I need to do, all the while trying to shush him and letting him know his behavior is not acceptable. Okay, I might shorten my list, but I will get the vitals for the night and pay. I will NOT remove him from the cart, because trust me- I won't get him back in.
He did it today in a restaurant, and I was almost in tears because I was so frustrated. I just did not know what to do. Eventually, I got him calmed down and finished a few more bites of my lunch, told him I was finished, boxed up my lunch and got us home. He went straight to bed- no playing. But it's just really, really frustrating. Even taking him to the restroom doesn't help, because you can take him, calm him down, and then he'll start back up once you come back out. If the tantrum was about ANYTHING but wanting to ride in the car and go home, the answer is obvious- get in the car and go home.
I know the first one isn't polite. But you know what? I don't give a fuck. (Yes, I'm that annoyed at the moment.) I will do what's best for my child and the rest of the grocery store can deal. It's not like I don't hear a crying kid pretty much every time I go in there, y'know? (And I shop when it's generally SAHMs anyway. The one time he did this, I found more people giving me the "I've been there" look of sympathy than the glare of doom.)
Argh. Vent helped a bit. Maybe now a cold shower and some ice cream. Mmm. Ice cream.
Toby has started tantrums. At home, big whoop. I ignore them, don't give in, yada yada yada. In public, harder. Why harder, you ask?
Because he shouts "in the car! in the car!" He wants to ride in the car and go home.
What does a polite person generally do with a tantruming child? Get them out of the situation and home.
Yeah. You see?
He's done it before in the grocery store. Now, I do not care at all if what I do is rude. I know what he wants, and he is throwing these tantrums (rarely, but he does it) deliberately, because he wants to go ride in the car and go home and play. He is not wet, or sick, or tired at these points. This is only emphasized when he keeps saying "trains!" over and over. So, in the grocery store, I finish what I need to do, all the while trying to shush him and letting him know his behavior is not acceptable. Okay, I might shorten my list, but I will get the vitals for the night and pay. I will NOT remove him from the cart, because trust me- I won't get him back in.
He did it today in a restaurant, and I was almost in tears because I was so frustrated. I just did not know what to do. Eventually, I got him calmed down and finished a few more bites of my lunch, told him I was finished, boxed up my lunch and got us home. He went straight to bed- no playing. But it's just really, really frustrating. Even taking him to the restroom doesn't help, because you can take him, calm him down, and then he'll start back up once you come back out. If the tantrum was about ANYTHING but wanting to ride in the car and go home, the answer is obvious- get in the car and go home.
I know the first one isn't polite. But you know what? I don't give a fuck. (Yes, I'm that annoyed at the moment.) I will do what's best for my child and the rest of the grocery store can deal. It's not like I don't hear a crying kid pretty much every time I go in there, y'know? (And I shop when it's generally SAHMs anyway. The one time he did this, I found more people giving me the "I've been there" look of sympathy than the glare of doom.)
Argh. Vent helped a bit. Maybe now a cold shower and some ice cream. Mmm. Ice cream.
