Why, oh why do I do this?

[lls_mutant]

Why do I post certain places? Why?

No, werewolf_lib, it's not That Site these days. It's a site that SHOULD make sense... Weight Watchers.

Specifically, the New Moms board.

Honestly, there are a lot of great people that use the boards, which is the answer for why I do it. But there is a hive of exceedingly catty, cliquey women that dominate the New Moms board. God forbid an innocent newbie wanders in and asks a question or makes a statement they don't approve of. It's not like these women (mostly women) even attack the old clique- they just ask a question or respond to one and wow- out come the claws.

I should just walk away. But a lot of it is the principle. This is a Weight Watchers owned site. It is there to provide support to members who want to lose weight. Why should I let a bunch of mean cats chase me away because I'm not one of their crowd? Why should they get to fucking push anyone around?

Ignore people. That's fine with me. That's A-OK. But damn it, mocking people who actually have a legitimate question or issue or (god forbid) want to discuss losing weight when you have young ones in the house... it's just plain mean and I feel like I shouldn't have to kowtow or let them win.

But no. That's not right either. Because dude, weight loss is about one person- me. On the one hand, I don't want to walk away from a board that I occasionally get a helpful answer from and "let them win." On the other, I really DON'T care what these anonymous internet bitches think of me, and so I should just cut the negativity from my life and say "screw em all."

Yes, I think the latter action is the wise course. Fuck it, I'm deleting the bookmark.

At least the people at meetings are nice, normal, and helpful.

Comments

[joesther.livejournal.com]

Oh oh oh oh!! Do NOT go to the ww forums. They're horrible and cliquey and terrible. If you want a real supportive group, join _weightwatchers on here. Seriously. So much nicer.

[lls-mutant.livejournal.com]

Thank you! I will check it out, because they really are beyond awful, and having a support group would be nice. (Although the Cooking Light Critics thread was always very nice and welcoming, but it's hard to read through.)

[joesther.livejournal.com]

No worries. I don't know if there's an LJ group for WW moms, but I bet they'll know there. Or maybe you could start one? I bet a lot of people would join.

[werewolf-lib.livejournal.com]

Ah, you read my mind! Funny story -- I found a copy of her book at a local thrift store! It's the only time I've ever seen one 'in the flesh', so to speak.

Forums are nuts wherever one goes, I think. Not a day goes by on the Etsty without some kind of drama. Hell, I don't think even an hour goes by!

A friend of mine is pregnant with her first child and I have expressly forbidden her to join any on-line parenting forums. A few links to some of the most choice LJ Mommie dramas helped convince her it was the right idea!